“It's hard to start loving. “Now that I’m older and can’t meet anyone, what should I do?”
First, I would like to offer my condolences. it's okay. That's how we all live. There is an older brother who lived alone until he was 30 and then suddenly left, and there is an older sister who suddenly sent me a wedding invitation one day saying she would get married.
But you probably didn’t come to this article to seek comfort.
There are many solutions. However, I would like to tell you that we should first think about it together.
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First of all, let's assume that you are not young.
Actually, age doesn't matter. This is because it is important that it is difficult to start loving no matter how old you are. In other words, it is not difficult to start loving because you are old.
People who find it difficult to start dating because they are too old often say this. “Your eyes are raised high.” Yes, the problem is that the eyes are raised. This means that the standard for seeing the person I want to date has increased. (If you have high standards but are good at dating, there is no need to read this article.)
Why are the eyes raised? Being highly regarded means being judged a lot. It is also used to mean that there are many things to wish for. When a person wants something, it is when he or she needs something. In other words, it means that you need a lot, have little, and are lacking.
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Not enough? What do you mean it's lacking?
You probably know that you are lacking. But let me change my perspective a little.
What I am lacking can be filled in two ways. I do it or someone else does it. (I will exclude anything that falls from the sky.)
If it's something I can do, just do it. There's no problem at all.
However, if you expect a lot from the other person, it probably means, ‘I want to fill myself with what others do for me.’ In this case, it becomes a problem if the other person does not do it ‘right’.
Now that we've seen who fills in what's lacking, let's see what's lacking.
There are two main things. It is matter and spirit. I can express it with money and love.
If you lack material resources, this article is meaningless. I pray that you find such a person. This article is for those who want mental support and love.
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To summarize, ‘I want to be loved, but I’m afraid of not being loved.’
The love I desire includes many areas, including empathy, support, forgiveness, and understanding. ‘Someone who only looks at me’ would also fall into this category.
You may ask, “Where is someone like that?”
you're right. There is no such person.
(No, there is a chance of winning the lottery.)
The problem is that we are looking for people like that. If you weren't that kind of person, you wouldn't have read this article. You must have been meeting someone.
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It's hard to admit that I want to be loved. Because it makes me feel like a child.
But I want to tell you that it's okay. The reason I write this is because I want to be loved. Self-fulfilling love has its limits. I think so.
The desire to be loved is never childish. I would like to tell you to pursue and achieve it until the end.
Of course, you shouldn't do whatever you want. It must be tempered and controlled. You need to think about ways to express your feelings and practice accepting the other person's feelings.
That's what we're going to talk about.
It's never too late. It's never too late. There is only now and later.
I cheer for you.
Thanks for reading.
