Have you ever liked someone? Her heart beats when she remembers him/her, the memory of her joy in even the little things. I am. It happened often. There will be five or six people.
‘A person who falls in love quickly.’ That was me. Even if you treat me just a little bit well, I fall in love. It didn't matter if it was a crush or just a personality trait. For me, it was important that I liked it.
Fortunately, I learned how to express my feelings later. Perhaps if I had matured earlier, I would not have met a deacon. After meeting the deacon, I started thinking about many things. And among them, there is ‘the meaning of liking.’
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If you say ‘I like you’ to someone, what do you think that means?
First, you can think of ‘I like it.’ It means it suits your taste. Long/short hair, tall/short, etc. It's similar to having to choose between soup and pizza.
Let's go a little deeper. It can also be expressed as ‘keeping it in mind.’ It means ‘I will keep you in mind when I decide something’ or ‘you will have influence in my life’. “My girlfriend doesn’t let me hang out with her friends” is also in the same context.
If I go any further from here, I will escape myself. Because it includes the concept of ‘I need you.’ It doesn't make sense to like something you don't need, especially people. (Of course, people who don't like it may also need it, but I'll leave it out here.)
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Once the concept of necessity has emerged, a ‘relationship’ is formed from here. Even if it is not directly connected, it flows reciprocally. It is from this point that if you like a celebrity, you become a ‘fan’, and if you like an ordinary person who does not know you, you become ‘stalking’.
Let me give you an example. Have you ever ‘remembered rejecting someone who said he liked you’? It must have been uncomfortable. Because you don't have the heart to accept the other person's feelings. It's no one's fault. Because that's how the mind is.
But since someone gave you their heart, you need to think about it. This is the part about ‘Does he/she truly like me?’
The reason you should worry is simple. Because such people are rare. ‘Sincerely’. In other words, it is a question asking ‘Do you know how to love correctly?’
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What does it mean to be right? Right love? Isn’t it different for each person? you're right. It's different for each person. Here, I will leave out the area of taste.
Basically, right love refers to ‘love that you feel is right.’ No pun intended. Because love is an emotion. If it feels right to you, that's right love. Even if someone comes to you with Erich Fromm’s “The Art of Loving” and says, “This is love,” if it’s not you, it’s not true. So we have to pick someone we like.
However, there is a problem. Not everything you like is right. A typical example is when you start a relationship because you like it, but it breaks up. This is a classic example of letting your heart do what your mind tells you to do.
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If you're looking for true love, your head and heart must go together. You must accept it from your heart and discern it with your head. Isn’t it really difficult to love? I didn’t say ‘love pain’ with ‘Geumsapa’ for no reason.
This is why ‘effort’ and ‘temperance’ are emphasized when discussing love. True love is a concept that must be recognized by the other person, not by you. No matter how much you love someone, if they say they hate you, they are nothing more or less than a ‘nuisance person.’
In addition, shouldn’t you be loved too? Only then can we give love again and lead to a virtuous cycle. At some point, you will give up on sticking to a bottomless poison.
So, find someone who knows how to make ‘effort’ and ‘discipline’ while loving. A person who works hard to be liked and restrains himself so as not to feel pressured. (You should also look at sustainability.)
For your information, there is no such person. It’s like a ‘fantasy Pokémon’ that exists only in theory. If you have it, you definitely shouldn't miss it.
There is no need to be disappointed if you don't have it. It's hard to find, but it's easy to become that person. (Relatively speaking. Absolutely difficult.) And when you become a fantasy Pokemon, the person who has you becomes the person who caught the fantasy Pokemon.
I'm trying to become a fantasy Pokemon. If the butler changes my profile picture, it means I'm doing well so far.
Thanks for reading.
