It has been over three months since I began studying writing in earnest. We read well-written articles, look at writing books, write them ourselves, and get feedback. As I progress, I refine my sentences and think about ways to show rather than say. I try to write better.
Are you studying too? Have you ever thought about this? ‘What should I do to study well?’
As you know, today's world is crazy about self-improvement. Everyone is running to become a better person and achieve their goals. I think so too. However, if I were to ask you, ‘Can you put on the brakes right now?’ how would you answer? I would say ‘difficult’.
Today, I’m going to talk about ‘how to increase study efficiency without stepping on the brakes.’
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Are you also studying at this time? If so, the fields would probably be diverse, such as real estate, stocks, studies, hobbies, etc.
If you are studying, you probably have a desire to improve something. In better condition than now. The point is to ‘pursue change.’
Of course, studying must be done throughout one's life. However, there is something to check before you study. How to study.
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I said earlier that studying pursues change, so you need to know why. Why do you want to change? Even if it's just motivation, the meaning is the same.
The phrase ‘wanting to change’ contains the meaning of wanting to improve the current situation. It's not that I don't like the current situation, but I want to change it to a better state. It's similar to moving to a larger house or buying a bigger car, even if your house isn't small.
So, is it right to ask you, ‘Are you happy with the current situation?’ If you like it, you won't think about changing it.
So we have to think about why we don't like it. What and why don't you like it?
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If you admit that you ‘don’t like’ or ‘are not satisfied’ with something, in other words, if you admit ‘your shortcomings,’ it is easy to move on to the next step.
The question is, ‘What caused the deficiency?’ Think about what you lack and feel lacking.
Deficiency means ‘not enough.’ People try to make up for what they lack. In <I Almost Worked Hard>, it refers to ‘a person who works hard.’ I take my time and do something, and I work very hard at it. (I’m not saying you shouldn’t work hard or that it’s bad.)
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The problem is that no matter how hard you work, problems will arise. Any problem.
The process by which a deficiency causes problems is simple. No matter what you do, it makes you think, ‘Is this the right path?’ That means I'm not sure.
Are you anxious while studying too? So why aren't you sure? Clearly, the path we found is a proven path. Didn’t you read books and study? However, we are often not convinced by the words of world-class scholars or mentors. Cases where there is no change even after studying are also included as cases of uncertainty.
The point is that it is difficult to put into practice what you have studied. The reason is simple. It's because you don't believe it. If I had put into practice what I studied, I would have become a great person.
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Another way to say ‘I couldn’t believe it’ is ‘I couldn’t accept it.’ The reason I couldn't accept it is because I don't know the concept of acceptance.
So when do you feel well accepted? What does ‘accepting well’ mean?
I admit it right away. Just as it is. If the book says so, I assume it is so and put it into practice. The point is, don't doubt it. Accept it as it is without doubt. Isn’t this a concept you’ve seen a lot somewhere?
Yes, when we say we ‘love’ someone, we use the concept of accepting them as they are without question. To summarize, it means that you can study well only if you know how to love without doubting. A crazy conclusion has been reached.
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But when we look at attachment types, the outlines become more clear. Secure attachment is good at giving and receiving love. I’m not good at insecure attachment. The stable type received a lot of love, and the unstable type was not. Of course, the way you give love is important, but we'll talk about that later.
The biggest characteristic of the stable type is that they are neither obsessed nor avoidant. You can love yourself and love others. This means that you have no hesitation in accepting or putting into practice what you have studied.
The main premise is that you need to understand love.
Is it plausible?
Thanks for reading.
